I Figured it Out...Hope it's Not Too Late

posted Mar 28, 2018, 4:49 PM by Daniel Pate

There are many things I try to make sure I pass on to my children. Various wisdoms I think are great and they think are average. Today I think I actually have one. I know it's good, cuz it's simple. In fact, you all probably know it already. I am still going to put it down here and try to take credit for something profound--that's how I do. The profound insight which is guaranteed to change your life and everyone around you is.................responsibility. Yup, responsibility. Not very sexy, not very profound. Well, at least, by itself. Coupled with some context, it's pretty damn good. And, it couldn't be more freeing. 

What I said to my daughter was that there is no one on earth who can make you feel anything, nor anyone who can make you do anything. Even with a gun to your head, you ultimately have choice. I also said, she ultimately has responsibility for how she perceives her life. She is NOT responsible for things that happen in her life, nobody is. Things can happen and without fail things will happen. Stuff you don't want, couldn't predict, and most likely fear most, WILL happen. --And it will suck. Unless it doesn't, and the suck is up to you; it's not up to anyone else. Whether or not your life sucks is not up to moving, money, or how other people act. It's up to you, and ONLY you to perceive how events affect your life. 

This is what I told her, and while I was saying it I was choking on my hypocrisy; and not just a little. I remembered I had forgotten where the source of my life comes from (me). I was pulled back into the undercurrent of normalcy where how my life is comes from outside of me. Where things have to happen to me I think are "good" for my life to be "good". If this doesn't happen, life sucks. If it does happen, life still might suck.  The major problem is, it's not up to me. (HINT) it IS up to me. I had just forgotten that. There is a rule I remember from the great ancient philosopher with no name--shit happens. 

When it all comes down to the end of life what matters now will matter to you then. Did I really focus on what mattered? Did what mattered to me everyday make a difference for what I am feeling now that I am about to die? It's a question which deserves to be asked in the next traffic jam...

I've Had Some Random Thoughts...And Then I Had These

posted Jan 8, 2018, 5:48 PM by Daniel Pate   [ updated Dec 3, 2018, 8:34 AM ]

Maybe we're all nuts from lack of Oxygen since the atmosphere is mostly Nitrogen. See?

I'm sorry to everyone for not doing the things you think I should have done.

Sometimes I just don't get myself. I mean, even I don't know why I do that.

I saw a Banksy about "follow your dreams" was cancelled...It represented my life TOO well. Banksy Kills It

I'm head over heels right now, literally. Most likely, you are too and it's not a big deal.

I'm Just Gonna Write Stuff...

posted Nov 27, 2017, 5:46 PM by Daniel Pate

I got this thing, and I don't use it very much. So here goes. I am currently looking at where I am, physically I mean. Sitting in my Jeep uncomfortably as I type this I am considering music from my earlier days. I stinkin' love electronic music, stuff with great drum and bass...usually some killer sampled stuff in there too. It may seem like an oxymoron listening to dance music as I sit in a car; I don't care. It's awesome, and I will continue doing it until I die. Which reminds me, I am not dying so quickly yet. At least not from my brain tumor. I recently had a MRI and it came back stable again. I convinced my DR to allow me to just go every year now...waiting from scan to results for a week sucks. I am happy I only have to do it only 1 out of 52 now instead of 2 or 3! Well, that's it! Love all of my 2 readers! 

Trump Makes Sense

posted Jan 21, 2017, 9:55 PM by Daniel Pate   [ updated Mar 15, 2017, 7:24 PM ]

I finally figured it out, after much mental wrangling. What was it that previously eluded me and now is totally clear? The rise and popularity of Donald Trump as a candidate for President. Even my father, who I once thought I shared world views with, supports Donald Trump for President. My Dad is was born in 1942, so he is now getting older. He is now seeing his ability to earn more dwindle. And watching his family business start to lose market share. I can see why he would want to make America great again, his perception is America was great "back when". This is the battle cry of Trump supporters it seems. We "used to" be great, and now we are not; we "used to" have more, and now we have less; we "used to" have control, and now we have chaoss. It is unfortunate for my Dad, and people who see things his way this is not a disputable fact, it actually is The Truth. The truth happens a very different thing to different people. For the "group" my father belongs to, it does seem they have fared less well than other groups for the past 40 years or so. Whites are no longer a super-majority in the US, so we don't have to break even that group up by ethnicity or heritage anymore. The Italian and the German can hate the Mexicans equally. On top of this, everyone can hate African-Americans, because they are used to it. My dad and his generation is not used to Black Lives Mattering, or even a movement requesting something like that concept. If it is the days when you could overtly discriminate against minorities you are longing for, I say too bad. Those "good old days", were not really that great for everyone. While I don't subscribe to the zero sum theory of society where someone or some group gains rights by taking away from others. I can see where it might make sense to some. If I, am a white, middle-aged or even slightly older person sees things not going well for me. If I am realizing the "social contract" of hard work and perseverance isn't paying off like I was promised by my Grandfather, I might be pissed and look to scapegoats as well. It is unfortunate this group of pissed off white people is so short sighted though, it's to their detriment they don't realize they were screwed by other middle-aged white people whom they elected for decades.  Here's where it really sucks, it's entirely possible they are not really short sighted at all. There is a part of me that believes the group who anointed Trump as their white knight (like how I did that) is fully aware they were all victims of previous errors in judgment with regard to voting. They all realize comparing the US in the 1950's, 60's, 70's and even 80's to America today is not really even possible...if you want like to like things. It is just they took the easy way out. Trump provided the easiest answer to a question they all had, "why does my life suck"?  So I missed this election's prognostication by a wide margin, a margin the size of Vermont. I guess I don't have enough angry, white, cattle ranchers in my twitter feed. Oh well, I guess we'll see what happens. So far, it's been one day and already DT has signed an order making it easier for companies to not provide medical insurance. And another order making it harder for lower income individuals to buy a home. Well done pissed off people, well done. 

Theoretical Physics - Huh?

posted May 1, 2015, 10:52 PM by Daniel Pate

I have done a little, well, more than just a little delving into the world of physics from both an empirical and a theoretical perspective.  I have come to the conclusion we are not really meant to know; know what?  Know, for sure THE true and real nature of everything.  One major issue the physics world deals with is the true lack of a "unifying theory".  Einstein's theory of relativity works well for very large objects, however when applied to small particle level objects the theory falls apart.  This is at the point where another major name in Physics takes over, Bohr.  Niels Bohr, essentially is the father of quantum mechanics and quantum theory as we know it.  Quantum theory deals with the world on a much, much smaller level.  A level at which the "normal" laws of physics cease to have any governance over the actions of matter and/or energy.  The seemingly only theory able to unify the large world with the small is String Theory, and this is imperfect at best...and complete conjecture at worst.  

Here is my take on it, really.  We as human beings are much too limited to really see any great cosmic truth of the uni, or multiverse.  Limitations we cannot even perceive will lead us into the pit of confirmation bias blind despair.  As participants in the universe, we are not able to fully understand that which we are surrounded by, and even comprised of!  Any theory regarding the origin, direction, governance, or demise of our fishbowl will be fraught with the short-sightedness of our own inescapability of that which we would attempt to define.  From gravity, to relativity and proceeding into Quantum menagerie we have been willful victims succumbing to the pursuit of the unattainable resolution---infinite comprehension.  Finite beings as we are, we struggle to fill the ever-widening gap between what we seek, and what we know; or think we know to be true.  At every step we are met with confirmation bias in theory's clothing, causing momentary elation to again erode into hapless speculation.  

Alas, it is not for me to determine the worthiness of another's pursuit, therefore I only submit my pontifications into the ether.  For I and my grand opinions, like every single thing any of us has ever known will eventually become merely detritus of a world we were never meant to grasp.  

An Ode to Parents...especially the single ones

posted Apr 24, 2015, 10:06 PM by Daniel Pate

For the last month, I have been a single parent of two kids with no relief and no breaks. I know, big deal...how many people do this every day, for years with no real recognition; thousands, hundreds of thousands, even millions...maybe.  I am in such awe of you and your commitment to life.  Seriously, my wife has been in another city for only a Month now and I am crazzled beyond belief.  Trying to juggle work, home, kids, and life in general has been humbling.  It is done out of love and with such affection for my children, and this sometimes barely kept me together.  Again, I have to say on behalf of the rest of the world that will never know what you deal with, all of the single parents out there, scraping by or soaring amongst upper middle class, thank you.  From the children who may never tell you only because they don't get it either...thank you.  YOU are appreciated, by everyone.  

I Was Just Thinking About...the Retina

posted Apr 20, 2015, 9:51 PM by Daniel Pate

If everyone on Earth has a different retina, just like a fingerprint, no two are the same; then by default, no two people see the world in exactly the same way.  This may seem like not a very big deal, or perhaps for you, like me, it was a HUGE deal.  I have often thought about the way the world works in general and more specifically how the world works with regards to how humans treat each other.  The things that happen to humans at the hands of other humans is sometimes baffling.  All too often it seems, people are very quick to judge others' actions by their own standards and guidelines.  This shuts the judge-ers off to new information that could have an impact on their view of not just the people they intend to judge but the entire world itself.  Once a person "knows" how someone is, or isn't; how they do this or don't do that, all ability to see the subject in another way is lost.  It's as if the viewer has placed on the welding helmet of knowledge, its glass so dark even the light of the sun is obscured.  You'll notice I didn't say glasses, or perhaps blinders.  No, it is in fact just like a welding helmet; it can only be removed by the wearer and nothing gets through.  I implore the Earth to pause, prior to sitting in judgment of others.  Take one deep breath before pulling the shield over your eyes...and remember, it is a scientific fact no two people see the world in exactly the same way.  

AMAZING Insight With Regards To People

posted Oct 10, 2014, 4:33 PM by Daniel Pate   [ updated Jan 24, 2015, 10:11 PM ]

How true is this!!!

I've learned that people will forget what you said, 
people will forget what you did, 
but people will never forget how you made them feel.

--Maya Angelou

Whole Lotta Shakin' Goin On!!!

posted Sep 1, 2014, 9:09 PM by Daniel Pate

This is an excerpt from an email to my Mom about the recent Napa Earthquake.  (I now live about 25 miles from there!!!).  Enjoy!  

-- It was pretty scary at first, it was a violent shaking at first and then it was a rolling...like being on a boat that was moving around....only it was more like the boat was swaying on a horizontal axis rather than vertical. Not sure if that makes sense. Like a rocking chair laid on its side and rocking. I woke up first and it must have been instinct, I yelled "earthquake"!!!  And ran toward Hudson's room with Leslie following close behind. We opened his door and looked inside, he was fine and nothing was moving that bad in his room. Les and I just sat on the floor in the hallway waiting for the shaking to stop and then subsequently the swaying too. As soon as the worst was over we looked again at Hudson and saw he had slept through the whole thing!  
It was then we closed his door as quietly as possible and I started downstairs to check on Brooklyn. As soon as we closed Hudson's door, we could hear it rattling like there was a very strong draft running through the house, struggling to pass through the closed door and thus making it shake back and forth with a rattling sound. Only, there was no draft, no wind, and no window open. The quake was still moving the house, only not as bad now...it must have been some residual energy.  Sensing it was most likely over, I went down to see Brooklyn, who sleeps on the 1st floor while Hudson, Leslie, and I are on the 3rd.  When I stepped into the attached garage to get to Brooklyn's door, I was not sure what I would see around the corner.  We have boxes and racks, and boxes on racks completely covering both long walls of the tandem garage. I was half waiting to find our garage almost impassible making me hop on piles of cardboard, metal, and junk to get to her door. Surprisingly, everything was fine!  Nothing moved at all. It was baffling; I noticed the bowl of dog water that was full when I tucked her in now had only half left inside. The rest of the water was splashed all around the bowl. The splashing has an odd shape to it, most of the wet concrete below the bowl was on the North and South side, in a rectangular shape around the bowl. It wasn't at all circular like I might have expected.  When I opened Brooklyn's door, the dogs were already at attention and barked loudly. Murphy has jumped up on BK's bed and Rufus was cowering in a corner, opposite of where they usually sleep. I was relieved to see nothing disturbed, including Brooklyn. She had managed to sleep through not only the earthquake, but the dogs barking too!  When I saw she was still asleep and nothing had shifted, I went back upstairs to see what would pop up on the USGS site

Thought This Was Pretty Cool....

posted Nov 28, 2013, 11:27 AM by Daniel Pate   [ updated Oct 29, 2014, 5:28 PM ]

This is from a site www.mindvalleyacademy.com .  They have a connection to Shawn Achor, the Positive Psychology guy.  LOVE IT!!!

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